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Getting My Life Together

There was a meme recently that said, do you ever feel like you want to get your whole life together at 2 am? That’s me.  I consistently think of all the things I forgot to do and all the things I need to do in the middle of the night.  I can’t do this for another month.  I have got to get my life together!

Back in the day, I had it all together.  Or at least I thought I did when I was a planner.  I loved all things planning.  I liked knowing what to expect.  It became like a brain dump for me and allowed me to take stuff out of my mind and put them somewhere before I forgot them.

I remember using the agenda’s they gave you in school from a very early age and usually had a cheap one anytime I was taking college classes.

I graduated to the big leagues of planners when I got my first Erin Condren back in 2013/2014, and I haven’t looked back since when it comes to paper planners.

I also, over the last year or two, have found a love and appreciation for using technology to plan.  My google calendar tends to keep me on schedule with its alerts and reminders.

But as a housewife and a budding entrepreneur, I don’t have a strict schedule that I am forced to adhere to anymore.  That has shaken up my planning routine a bit.  I’m mostly relying on to-do lists (or completed lists) and just don’t feel as productive as I could be.  With me wanting to be intentional with keeping my home and faith a priority while working on my entrepreneurship adventures, I know planning for me is what will help me find the harmony in doing all of those things.

I decided to sit down and plan the month of May.  But I wanted to go a little beyond what I have been doing as of late, which is just writing down appointments, meetings, and webinars.  I looked at what I wanted to accomplish this month:

  • I want to keep home a priority
  • I want to keep my relationship with God a priority
  • I want to make sure our finances are stable
  • I want to cook from what I have in the house already before my next grocery order
  • I want to be more consistent on the blog and social media

 

I knew these would be things that I need to “schedule” in if I wanted to accomplish them.  So I grabbed May’s calendar from my Erin Condren binder system and stared at it.

How do I get this blank calendar to bring me comfort with the five things that I had listed?  Let me break down my thought process for each one and show you what I did.

Keeping Home a Priority

How do I do this? For me, it is making sure our house is clean, and our home has a calming atmosphere and is a sanctuary for us to relax in.

I’ve decided to follow the FlyLady program again when it comes to cleaning and decluttering our home.  So I will use her routines and calendar to help me focus on what needs to be done cleaning wise.

Keeping God #1

The way that I build my relationship with God is by spending time in His Word, praying, and worshiping.  I also attend church each week.

Bible reading and studying is a passion of mine.  I love learning more about God and what His plan is for His children.  For me, this is a daily practice.  At the end of April, I finished my Day by Day Chronological Bible, which is what I was using for my daily reading.  But now that I have read the full Bible (and the NT twice), in less than 12 months, I decided it’s time to really add studying to my routine.

In May, I want to focus on one to two chapters a day for my studying.  I want to allow room for God to truly teach me His Word and see what fruit comes from that knowledge.  I will most likely be using the Dayspring Illustrating Bible.  And because I know I prefer to also get in additional reading, I am following along with Annie F. Downs and reading the four gospels each month, in a different translation.  In May, I am starting with the NASB translation and am just using the YouVersion Bible app.

I want to do better with praying for groups of people.  I currently have a list in my reminders app and want to be more consistent with praying over it.  My list includes The Church (body of Christ, church leaders, and missionaries), Chris and our future children/legacy, family, friends, unbelievers, our nation, and the world.

I also want to go back to the practice of reviewing the sermon and my notes from Sunday.  I use to try and rewatch the message during the week, make sure I didn’t overlook any relevant notes, and then transfer what I learned to my ESV Journaling Bible.  I haven’t done that in a while, and I miss the reinforcement of the message from my pastors.

Keeping Our Money Healthy

If you have seen our budgeting spreadsheet, you probably think it is a beast to maintain.  And while that can be the case, thanks to me doing budget reviews every week, it isn’t that difficult.  In less than 30 minutes, I update it with the previous week’s transactions, have a conversation with Chris, and set our goals and intentions for the next week.

 

We Have Food At Home

I hate meal planning mostly because I cook based on our cravings.  I try to keep a variety of items stocked at the house to make that possible.  But I haven’t been doing a great job lately of making us balanced meals.  And I’ve been stuck on more than one occasion on what I should cook.  So I decided to venture back into meal planning.

Consistency is Key

I have no idea why I struggle so much with this.  Well, I kind of do.

Honestly, I am 75% over social media.  I have worked hard to curate what I have coming into my feeds, but there can still be a lot of junk.  And because I don’t want to see that, I stay away from the apps.  Which is a problem when I love sharing and connecting with others.

And as for my blog?  Perfectionism, my friend.  This is draft post number 46.  Now to be fair, some of those are future projects.  But a lot of them are ideas that I have for a blog post, and during the process of fleshing them out, perfectionism has paralyzed me.

So I need to overcome this by planning out my content for the month and sticking to it.

See What I Did There?

My blog and social media are how I share and connect with people.  I share what I am currently going through and what I am currently working on.  So when it comes to planning out the content for May, I kind of just did that with this post.  My blog and social media posts, in a way, help keep me accountable.  If I know that I want to post what I learned from the sermon on Sunday, I have to be sure I did the review of my notes.  Now, to be clear, I am not doing these things for the blog or social media.  I am doing these things for me and am choosing to share them after the fact in hopes that they help others that may be struggling with finding harmony with all the things they are trying to manage in life.

Finally, since I used my Erin Condren monthly pages as my draft, I went ahead and added these to my Tanisha Rhenáe google calendar.  Now I know what my end goal is and can set up alerts to help me remember.  If you read this post here, you know that I am using time blocking to help make my day more productive.  That means instead of just randomly jumping from task to task, I put like items together and focus on only those items until the next block.  So while the doing of my five goals will be done in either my Homemaking or Admin block, I will use my Content Creation block to build these out for my blog and social media.

Let me know in the comments below what your biggest struggle is with planning?

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Book Review: The Legacy Journey by Dave Ramsey

Title: The Legacy Journey

Author: Dave Ramsey

Genre: Finance/Christian

Publisher: Ramsey Press

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Dave Ramsey is a legend in the Christian finance world.  With critical terms like baby steps, emergency funds, and sinking funds, almost everyone has heard something about what he teaches, even if not directly from him.  But if you are like me and have taken years to save that emergency fund, pay your debt off a time or two, and even make it through saving up 3-6 months worth of expenses, you are probably wondering, What is next?  So as someone who has not only followed Dave Ramsey’s baby steps but has co-lead multiple Financial Peace University classes, I wanted to know what the other side looked like.  That is what The Legacy Journey is about.  What does building wealth and giving really look like?  Dave Ramsey not only goes through those details but also provides the biblical background on why and how God has called us to build wealth and give.

My Thoughts:

One of the first things that jumped out at me about this book was how often Ramsey backed up his principles with Scripture.  And not only pulling one verse to push his ideas, but he really took the full context of multiple passages and then created his principles.  It was evident the amount of time that Ramsey took studying and actually living out what he preached.  I was thankful that he didn’t take too much time to rehash the lessons from his previous books (which covers all the baby steps in detail but more so focuses on baby steps 1 through 3). You get brief backgrounds on his history of becoming a millionaire and then having to file bankruptcy and build his wealth again God’s way.  You get plenty of examples of the millionaires and billionaires that he has spoken with and how they can focus on giving once they reached those statuses.  And I know sometimes it can seem like we are way far off from being a millionaire and for sure a billionaire, but Ramsey gives what I like to call real people examples as well that lets us know these goals are possible.

Ramsey starts with the reminder that we don’t truly own anything, including our wealth.  God is the owner, and He entrusts us to steward and manage money properly.  Ramsey then introduces the NOW-THEN-US-THEM concept.  NOW is all about budgeting and taking care of your family.  THEN is when you move on to focusing on your future by saving, investing, and paying off more substantial assets like your house.  US is about preparing your family for legacy building and turning that future planning into creating generational wealth.  THEM is community and giving focused.  He also tackles the debate on whether Christians should be wealthy or not.  He talks about biblical rumors that are generally thrown into the discussion (like money is the root of all evil…no, the love of money is the root of all evil – see 1st Timothy 6:10). He gives statistics showing how even though Jews are a small part of the US population, they make up a good part of the Forbes 400 list (2% compared to 25-30%).  What are they doing?  Following the biblical principles to gaining wealth and being generous once they have it.  Ramsey reminds us of all the wealthy men and women in the Bible and shows how God was the reason for their blessings and wealth.

Our mindset on wealth and how we teach our children about wealth are also focused on in this book.  Everything from pride, humility, and gratitude is touched on.  Not only do we have to plan what to do with our money so we can build wealth, but we also need to be intentional with what we say and show to our children.  If we plan to pass down our wealth to them as the Bible says, we need to ensure that they manage it well also so they can pass it down.  Ramsey outlines how to balance the biblical command of being a hard worker with also being content with what we have and where we are in life.  Does that mean we shouldn’t strive for more?  No, but it does mean that we should enjoy what we have and be thankful to God for giving it to us.  Setting goals and our work are essential as well.  Ramsey is a firm believer that anyone can become a millionaire with hard work and planning.  He also believes in positive thinking and speaking life, which was a huge confirmation for me when I was questioning affirmations and manifesting as a Christian.  (head to this post to see more on that)  You will learn why nonprofits shouldn’t get all your money, why wills are important, why it’s okay only to pay what you owe in taxes and how to create a family constitution that will be your guide throughout this legacy journey.

Another principle that was new for me was the idea of ratios.  Instead of setting specific dollar amounts for your overflow, which is where you will find your additional giving, investing, and living, you set ratios for those areas.  So basically, once you start getting towards the end of the baby steps (most likely baby step 7 – Build wealth and give), its time to decide what amount you can reasonably live on.  I’ll use one of his examples that seem more realistic.  You make $80,000 a year as a family but decide you can live on $50,00 a year.  Now you would apply the ratios to the remaining $30,000.  As a believer, you are giving 10% as a tithe.  You would then decide what percentage you are comfortable with for additional giving (whether that is to the church or charity).  He also recommends planning for taxes.  A part of your overflow should also go to investing.  And finally what he calls extra lifestyle which is where you get to enjoy your money.  For a family that has an income of $10,000,000 a year, they decided they could live on $400,000 a year.  That leaves them with $9,600,000 in overflow.  Here is their ratio breakdown:

10% Tithe = $960,000

40% Taxes = $3,840,000

10% Extra Giving = $960,000

35% Investing = $3,360,000

5% Extra Lifestyle = $480,000

100% = $9,600,000

You can see that with the ratios, no matter what your overflow amount is, as long as you are comfortable with your percentages, you are covered.

Ramsey also walks us through four areas using three lenses that, when we help strengthen these foundations, can help prepare us for wealth.  The four areas are your personal life, your marriage, your children, and other relationships. The three lenses all four areas will go through are ownership, magnification, and community.  The first and foremost thing when it comes to building your wealth, as Ramsey has already shared, is managing yourself.  Reminding yourself that you don’t have any ownership and that it all belongs to God. Getting more money will only magnify who and what you already are.  And the community you build at this stage should include a teacher, a student, and a friend.  (A bit of a tangent – here is where Ramsey talks about him and a group of his 12 closest friends that meet every week for an hour and a half to chat, check-in with each other, study the Bible or read books.  And they have done this for over a dozen years.  Can I just say, I added this to my prayer list?)  Secondly, if you are married, you are a team and as one flesh need to do this wealth-building thing together.  To avoid the focus being on “me” and “mine” in these discussions, you again are reminding each other that it all belongs to God.  Everyone knows that finances are a significant cause of marriages going astray.  Having more money will not change that aspect.  Building a solid foundation in your marriage first helps alleviate many problems in advance.  It’s essential to build a community that consists of other couples at your financial level and maintain those life long friendships that you have created.  Thirdly, teach, and show your kids how to manage the wealth that hopefully, you will be passing on to them.  Teach them early on that all things belong to God.  Your children’s personalities will just be magnified when they receive and build wealth.  And it’s just as vital for them to have positive influences in their community as it is for you.  Lastly, your other relationships will be impacted by your increase in wealth, and its best to plan for that.  You do not owe anyone anything just because they are your family.  And people’s real personalities come out, the more money there is to be spread around. Setting boundaries will impact your community, but don’t worry, those friends you built at your wealth level will be able to support you through this.

I challenge you to turn this book into a Bible study on generosity and biblical wealth.  Take time to really soak in the principles and the Scriptures behind them.  Invite God into your finances and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you.  This book has led to many prayers and conversations with my loved ones and friends. While it may be difficult to imagine in the early baby steps, I do still recommend everyone reads this book as it will help with motivation and seeing the end goal.  Biblical and generation wealth are gifts that I want to plan to give my future children and their children.  This book did its job to help me better understand what that looks like and how to accomplish it.  And for that reason, it gets 5-stars from me.

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Down the TBR Hole #221 – 240

Welcome to Down the TBR Hole #221-240!  What is Down the TBR Hole?  It is where I grab 20 books from my insanely long TBR list on Goodreads and decide if I am keeping or removing the books.  Need to catch up?  Click here to go to the previous post.  As a reminder, here are the rules:

I think this is the first week ever that I am starting with the same number I ended with in the last post.  I’m proud of myself, but I am also struggling because I am not reading books on my TBR list as I should be.  If you follow me on Instagram, you would have seen previously that I am on both a Kindle Unlimited and Black Romance kick right now.  And I haven’t taken the time to add any books that I want to read on my TBR.  I just read them. Kicking off this week with 4,657 books on my TBR list.  Let’s get started.

 

 

 

1. Financially Fearless: The LearnVest Program for Taking Control of Your Money by Alexa Von Tobel

I would love to learn more about this 50/20/30 plan they have, so I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

2. Live It, Love It, Earn It: A Woman’s Guide to Financial Freedom by Marianna Olszewski

I’ll probably be keeping all the finance books because it is a passion of mine, and I could learn all day long about this topic.  It’s also a plus that it’s a female author.  Keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

3. The Laws of Money, The Lessons of Life: 5 Timeless Secrets to Get Out and Stay Out of Financial Trouble by Suze Orman

One of the original people I started to follow when it came to finances (a true OG).  Keeping her on the list.

 

 

 

 

 

4. MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom by Tony Robbins

I’ve heard of Tony Robbins as a motivational speaker but not in the financial world.  But I love that it appears he did his research by reaching out to the experts to write this book. I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

5. Smart Women Finish Rich: 9 Steps to Achieving Financial Security and Funding Your Dreams by David Bach

I’m not a fan of men who write books for women.  So I am removing this one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

6. The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason

This is one of those classic books but one that I don’t mind reading.  I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

7. Your Money and Your Man: How You and Prince Charming Can Spend Well and Live Rich by Michelle Singletary

Another OG in the financial world for me.  It’s a major plus that she is a woman of color because until recently, I wasn’t seeing anyone that looked like me in the “famous” financial world (think Dave Ramsey and Suze Orman).  I am keeping this book.

 

 

 

 

 

8. Spend Well, Live Rich by Michelle Singletary

Another one from Michelle Singletary and I have had this book on my list for so long.  I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

9. Listen, Love, Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World by Karen Ehman

I believe once upon a time, I was very others-centered.  I regularly did for others, helped others, and put others first.  Somewhere along the way, I gave that up and became super all about me.  There has to be some balance I can achieve.  So I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

10. Beyond Jabez: Expanding Your Borders by Bruce Wilkinson

Okay, so apparently this book is a follow up to his original book, Prayer of Jabez (which is also on my list).  Both books are about prayer but the first book, more specifically on 1st Chronicles 4:10.  I had to look up the verse, and it makes me wonder why out of all the prayers in the Bible, this is the one that was chosen to write a book on.  I am removing this one.

 

 

 

 

 

11. Sister Betty! God’s Calling You, Again! by Pat G’Orge-Walker

Oh my goodness, this seems like it would be a funny book.  I haven’t read too many funny Christian books (at least I think this is Christian fiction, but it is for sure African American fiction), so I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

12. Drawn to Destiny: How to Discover and Bring to Fruition Your True Purpose in Life by Yvonne Capehart

Hmm, so I think the purpose of my life books has come back around as an interest for me.  No telling if that will be the case by the time I get around to reading some of these, but for now, I will keep this one.

 

 

 

 

 

13. What Do I Know About My God? by Mardi Collier

One thing I like about this book is that it speaks about reading the Bible to get to know God.  The other thing is that it includes a study method.  I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

14. The Pursuit of God: The Human Thirst for the Divine by A.W. Tozer

One of the classics.  A.W. Tozer is one of those Christian authors I always see quoted.  And while I may have removed some of his other books until I know more about him, I know this particular book is one that I want to read.  I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

 

15. Let Me Be A Woman by Elisabeth Elliot

I was torn with this book.  While I would love to “learn what it means to be a woman” by starting “with the One who made her.”, a part of me is not wanting to limit my focus on just being a woman.  I’m going to go ahead and remove this one.

 

 

 

 

 

16. The Role of a Lifetime – The Script God Wrote for Women by Claudia Barba

Remember what I just said up above?  This is why I am torn.  Because this study seems more like a book that I would read about God’s role for women.  That means I am keeping it.

 

 

 

 

17. The 21 Tenets of Biblical Feminity: Transforming Girls into Young Ladies by Jerry & Sheryl Ross

My initial thought was, did Jerry throw his wife in as an author because he knew how wrong it was for a man to write about Femininity? Although I wouldn’t mind reading about this topic, it grinds my gears that the primary author is a man.  There are so many books by amazing women that write about this topic.  Removing this one.

 

 

 

18. The Choice is Yours: Life Happens. Walking with God is a Decision. by Terrie Chappell

From personal experience, I’ve learned recently that decision fatigue is a real thing.  I want not to have to make as many decisions on matters and want to be led more by God’s Spirit with things.  That’s also why a primary focus of the Year of Healthy is building habits. I am keeping this one.

 

 

 

 

19. Secrets of a Happy Heart by Debi Pryde

It was a little challenging to find the synopsis for this book, which tells me I added it from a recommendation list.  But it is a study of Titus 2.  That happens to be one of my favorite chapters in the Bible.  I am keeping this one.

 

 

20. What is Modesty by Michelle Brock

Most of my life, I have been a pretty conservative dresser.  I like to be comfortable and am not a fan of showing a ton of skin.  But the older I get, the more I wonder about the balance of being modest and being sexy (which I also enjoy).  I want to look and feel good.  And as much as I love a good pair of ball shorts and a tee, I also love a good dress.  I am keeping this one. (fun fact: I took a 2-second break after getting a message on IG and scrolled for a second and saw a modest apparel company advertised.  👋🏾 Big Brother 🤣)

 

Final Count: Removing 4; Keeping 16

TBR Down to 4,653

Another week’s list that has quite a few books about money and finances, which continue to go in line with January’s Year of Healthy theme.  Have you read any of these books? Did I make a mistake with removing or keeping one?

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Our Monthly Budget Spreadsheet Part 2

I hope that you were able to get some valuable information from last week’s post on Part 1 of our Budget Spreadsheet.  I shared our Income, Giving, Saving, and Debt sections.  To read Part 1, head here.

While what I shared so far are some notable heavy hitters, I believe what I am going to share next are things that we most often have forgotten about.  The things that month to month may be a struggle to remember to pay, or they pop up unexpectedly.  Things like our household bills, auto-related expenses, and subscriptions.  These items for me are still sectioned off on the left side of my budget and grouped with their related bills.  On the right side, they are listed under our Bill Tracker, and most items have trackers to keep up with the day to day details.

Insurance

Our home insurance is connected to our mortgage, but we still have Life Insurance, Auto Insurance, and a Home Warranty to pay for.  If we had any supplemental medical insurance, we would include that here as well.  As a reminder, the left side of our budget consists of the following columns: Budgeted, Actual 1-15, Actual 16-31, Diff/Remaining, and Notes.

I am hiding the section of the Bill Tracker that I showed you last week, so you can still see the column headings.  But here is what the insurance section looks like.  Here I can document the exact Due Date, the exact Amount, the Method of payment (mail check, scheduled, autopay), which Paycheck it will come out of,  and if it’s Confirmed Paid/Payment Cleared.  Then I also have a Notes section here.

Utilities

Depending on where you live, if you rent or own, and what is included with your rent, this section could have less or more than what I have listed.  For us, we only have to worry about Electric, Security System, Internet, and our Cell Phone.  But for others, they may also include Cable, Water, and Trash.

Here is what the Utilities section looks like under the Bill Tracker.

Home

This is another section that will depend on your specific living situation.  In this Home section, we include almost everything else dealing with the home that hasn’t already been covered.  For us, that contains Groceries, Home Improvement (a sinking fund which I will discuss later), Yard Maintenance, Alarm Permit Renewal, Pest Control, Septic System Agreement, and Septic Permit.  A lot of these are quarterly or yearly payments and can be a considerable chunk out of a paycheck if it hits all at once.  So having it here in our budget allows us to put money towards it each paycheck.  For example, our Septic System Agreement can cost up to $450 a year.  So instead of paying all of that out of one check, we can set aside $37.50 from our “bill light” paycheck (meaning we don’t have a ton of bills coming out) each month.  Then when it is time to pay the agreement, we pull the $450 we have saved to pay it.

For the Bill Tracker section Home, I only have listed actual bills that need to get paid.  This section is essential, especially for the bills that are due quarterly and yearly.  When I created this sheet and going forward every year with my planning, I will include the estimated due date and amount here until I get the actual invoice/bill.  So, for example, I see last year in November is when we paid for our Septic Agreement.  It is yearly, so I know this year, in November, it will be due again.  My tracker will most likely show an 11/01 due date to help me plan out the monthly amount I need to save.  And then, when I get the invoice in September or October, I will update the exact due date and amount.

This section also includes the first of the specific trackers.  Probably like many of you, if there is one area of our budget that we are likely to overspend, it is on food.  I love eating, and I love cooking.  A couple of years ago, due to some health issues, I had to make a significant change in the type of food I was buying and cooking, which increased our food budget.  Knowing how easy it is to have this category get out of control, I knew I needed to create a Grocery Tracker.  One thing that has changed recently is I am going to the grocery store a couple of times a week (from 5 times in November to 12 times in December).  I am trying to reduce the amount of food we end up wasting because it stays hanging around for too long.  So each trip I document the Date I went, the Amount spent, the Place I went to, if the Payment Cleared and Notes. One difference is the total here gets automatically plugged into the Groceries category in the Home section of our budget. And that cell is merged because it doesn’t exactly matter much for me which paycheck we spend money on groceries. After all, it is something that is needed, no matter what.  Here is a sneak peek: Next month’s topic for Year of Healthy will be me going vegan (just for that one month).  This will be interesting to see how that impacts my budget as I always hear (and have experienced) that it is more expensive to eat healthily.  But cutting out meat and other animal products should help.

Auto

The auto section is where we have our Gas, Car Maintenance, and Car Registration listed.  I can also tell you that Driver’s License Renewal will get added to this section thanks to me thinking I lost mine last month and having to order a new only to find it later. Car Maintenance and Car Registration are both categories that we tend to save up for by putting money aside each paycheck mostly.  But due to the number of miles we drive each month, we have to get an oil change on at least one of the cars each month.  So at a minimum, we have to put that amount aside each month.

For the Bill Tracker, this is where we keep Car Registration #1 and Car Registration #2.  Ours come in the mail what feels like 3-4 months before they are due, and as someone who frequently forgets hers, it needed to be added to the budget.

Based on us having to get an oil change for one of our cars monthly, you may have concluded that one of our vehicles gets a lot of miles put on it, which means a ton of trips to the gas station.  While I can get away with going once a month, my husband sometimes has to go 2-3 times a week.  To keep up with how much gas is costing us each month and if we need to increase our budgeted amount, we track the Date, the Amount, the Place, which Car was filled up, if the Payment Cleared and Notes. This helps us keep an eye on which gas station tends to have the lowest price for gas, and we can plan better.

His/Her

His/Her section covers items that are specific to Chris or I.  This is where we will have our Blow $ allowance, Clothing allowance, and Personal Care (hair/nails/etc.).  You will notice that Chris has an Entertainment section, and I don’t.  At first, I thought that I don’t need one because Chris is more likely to go out to the movies with his friends, whereas if I go, it will be with him and will go in the next section we talk about.  But this would probably be a good spot for any books I buy. I usually put them under blow $.  I’ll try it for a month, and we will see.  Also, this is where I keep the categories for my Website Domain and Website Support.

Out of all of those categories, the only ones that go on our Bill Tracker pertains to my Website Domain and Website Support.

All others get tracked under the His and Her Trackers that we have.  Here we are monitoring the Date, Amount, Place, if the Payment Cleared and Notes.  This is only for transactions that we use our debit card for.  So if Chris and I decide to take out cash for our blow $, we wouldn’t include that info here.  But again, having this track the individual purchases helps with planning our budget for things like clothes or personal care that may not be a monthly thing or may have one month that has more spending than others (like when Chris needs a new uniform for work). Notes usually are where I will document which category the transaction would be apart of.

Sinking Funds

Another section that I picked up from following Dave Ramsey is Sinking Funds.  A sinking fund is a mini savings “account” that I may or may not use each month.  For us, this includes a Pet Fund, Date Nights, Eating Out, Gifts & Misc., Medical Expenses, and Home Goods.  Most of these are also areas that we can quickly cut if we need more wiggle room in our budget (except the Pet Fund and Medical Expenses).

We do have a Sinking Funds Tracker where we can track the specific transactions for all the sections mentioned above.  Here we document the Date, the Amount, the Place, which Sinking Fund it goes to, if the Payment Cleared, and Notes.  We also record our Home Improvement sinking fund transactions here as well from the Home Section.  Putting money aside in that fund monthly, helps me save for a larger project we do during the year like redoing our patio or my office.

Subscriptions

This is a newer section for us because when I was going through our bank transactions, these little suckers always came up unexpectedly because we didn’t plan for them.  While I usually would have generic categories here, I wanted to leave our exact subscriptions to help refresh your memory! This section took three months to build out because each month, I was saying, “Oh yea, we pay for that also.”  Some are monthly. Some are yearly.  Some we canceled for the moment but may use again.  Either way, it is all here, so I know that it comes from our budget.

I consider these bills, so they go under our Bill Tracker as well. Because most of these are on Autopay, it has been a lifesaver knowing when they are going to hit our account.  And seeing the number of subscriptions we had, made us do some cutting down.

Odd Balls/Summary

I keep this Odd Ball section just in case there is a random category that comes up that doesn’t fit any of the other sections or categories that I already have.  I have yet to use it, but just in case.  The final part of our monthly budget is our summary.  They are formulas that show what is left after our Actual Expenses are subtracted from our Actual Income and what is left after our Budgeted Expenses are deducted from our Budgeted Income.  This gives me a high-level view of if our budget is in the red for the month and lets me know I need to make some adjustments.

Here is a full view of what the Bill Tracker looks like.

What’s Next

Since Finances are such a big part of my life and super important to talk about when it comes to marriage and families, I am thinking about adding another month to focus on budgeting.  Maybe talk a bit about our goals, paying down debt, or even what it took to transition to a one-income family.  Let me know what you think about our Budget Spreadsheet and if you have any topics you want me to cover in the second month.

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Our Monthly Budget Spreadsheet Part 1

If you have read any of the Year of Healthy posts from January, you learned that I have a love for budgeting.  You also learned that after taking a break from handling our household budget, I decided to break out a spreadsheet that helped us previously and update it a bit.  I wanted to share with you what our monthly budget spreadsheet looks like.  To get some more background information check out the previous posts here and here.

All In One Place

While this post will talk about our monthly budget, I do want to touch on what else is in this excel document.  I am a firm believer in having all you need in one place for almost every area of my life.  That is probably why I have a lint roller in the living room, laundry room, bedroom, bathroom, and the closet.  It just doesn’t make sense to me to have to go hunting for things.  So when it was time to update our budget spreadsheet, I knew I wanted it to include all things financial for us.  I may do a post later showing the specifics of what else is included but for now, here is a quick list:

  • PayDay Calendar
  • Mortgage Tracking (Statement Info, Date Pymts Posted, Escrow Details, Principal Balance, Interest Paid Balance, Estimated Equity)
  • Financial Goals (Monthly, Yearly, Lifetime)
  • Bank Transactions
  • Yearly Budget (until 2021)

Monthly Template

One thing I did while putting together the spreadsheet was to create a new tab for each month.  That way, when things come up that are in the future, I can already have a spot designated for it.  For example, if we decide to take a trip in May, I can increase our blow money for that month during my planning in January.  Each month already has my budget template, and I only need to update it if I make significant changes.

On the left side of the template is the actual budget.  I have our income and expenses sectioned off in groups because it makes it so much easier to see where our money is going.  I have a column labeled Budgetedand that is where I do my preplanning for what we expect to receive income-wise and spend expense wise. The next column is Actual 1-15. Any money actually received or spent will get documented under this column for the first half of the month.  The second half of the month is recorded under the column Actual 16-31.  The final two columns are Diff/Remaining, which I have set as a formula to let me know where we either overspent or underspent by subtracting our Actual from our Budgeted and lastly, a Notes column.

On the right side, is my trackers.  Each major group has one, so I can keep track of the totals and sometimes compare it to our goals.  Some of our sections, like gas, needs to be tracked in more detail than just saying we will spend $250 this month.  We can see which car is using more gas, etc.  This side also has our Debt Snowball information, our bill tracker with specifics such as due dates, how it was paid, and if it has cleared yet.

Let’s jump into the different sections and trackers.  *By the way, I include blank shots of our template.  I’m just not there yet with showing specific numbers on the intranets.  I hope you feel me!*

Income

This section in our budget is pretty self-explanatory.  Any income that comes into our household gets documented here.  That could be traditional employment, business income, rental/investment income, side hustle income, gifts.  It all goes into our income section.  Since it is just Chris and me, we have it noted as His Salary and Her Salary and then a couple of spots for Extra Income.  For this section and every section, we have a formula for the subtotal and also for the Diff/Remaining column.

On the right side, we do have a Paycheck Tracker.  Although it probably should be titled, Income Tracker.  But this is where I track the details of our income.  Specifically, the date received and what type it was.  If you expect to get rental income every month on the first, under Extra Income #1, you will document 1/1/20 with a Target amount of $1,000.  If that is what you actually get, you record the Actual amount to $1,000.  This is extremely helpful for those who don’t have a consistent income amount.  We expect our paycheck to be a certain amount every month, but different variables could have us receiving more.  I only want to budget off of what I know we will receive.  Anything extra is an added benefit that I can distribute out once that money is in my hands.

Giving

Our next section is giving.  I am a Christian, and I believe in tithing.  For me, tithing is done before paying anything else as I am a firm believer in God being able to make the rest stretch as long as I give Him my first fruits.  I actually already have the formula set up in that field based on our total income.  Right now, it is documented as 10% Tithe, but I believe that one day we will be able to do more.  This section is also where I include our Offerings amount and extra spaces for monetary Donations that we make during the month to charities or those in need.

My YTD Giving Tracker helps me track our giving towards our specific goals.  Under Target, I list out our goal (for example, 10% of our annual income would be our 10% Tithe target), and each month, I would update the Actual amount.  I have a formula set up for Percent Given.  This allows me to make sure we are on track each month.  If I get to, let’s say, July, and for some reason, we are under 50% of our goal, it is time to reevaluate or confirm that the rest of the year has us hitting our goal.

Saving

I also believe in paying yourself first before you pay anybody else.  I’ve seen (and done) too often, people who wait until everything is paid before they put any money in savings and then they are left with nothing.  This doesn’t work for us because we have goals that we are trying to hit.  In the past, we have followed Dave Ramsey, and he says that you should start with saving an Emergency Fund of $1,000 before you start paying off debt.  That is more of a short term goal that we may already have accomplished.  But if we ever have to use the fund, we need to focus on building it again.  And that is why it keeps a permanent spot on our budget.  We then have a place for Retirement.  The older we get, the more critical this section is.  As a No Car Note family, we need to keep that going for as long as possible.  That means we need to save for our next set of cars, which happens in the New Car Fund.  Our next one is a calculation.  Have you ever heard the statistic that, if you pay one additional payment a year to the principal on a 30-year mortgage, it will remove seven years from your mortgage?  That’s seven years of interest I do not have to pay!  So we take that one extra payment and divide it by 12 to know how much extra we have to put aside each month in our House Fund.  We would also use this when it comes time to save for a new house.  For additional money that we want to save for no specific purpose, we have a Savings Goal section.  This is also a formula that can calculate 5%, 10%, or 25% of your total income.  If you are in school and paying for it out of pocket (like I was), there is a Tuition section.  Many financial gurus will tell you about the benefit of having a certain amount of your monthly expenses set aside in case of job loss.  Depending on who you follow, that amount could be anywhere from 3-12 months.  I prefer to save in 3-month increments for our goal.  So we currently have it set as 3-6 Months Expenses.  Finally, we have our Vacation Fund to save for those vacation dreams we have.

I threw in some sample numbers so you could see what the YTD Savings Tracker looks like in action with the goals listed.  Target is where we keep our goal numbers for each section.  Each month, as deposits are made into these funds, the Actual amount gets updated.  Then the formula I have under Percent Saved will calculate and let us know how on track with our goals we are.  Admittedly, some of these goals have to take a back burner depending on whats going on in our life.  Some gurus will tell you only to have an emergency fund while paying debt.  Other’s will show you how to save in all these areas AND pay off debt, albeit slowly.

Debt

Although this tends to be a substantial section, the numbers are pretty straightforward.  The Debt section is where I list our budgeted and actual payments for our Mortgage, Credit Cards, Car Notes, Student Loans, and any Other Debt you have.  (I’ve added Student Loans up here because I know that is a large amount of the debt those in America carry.  We were lucky to pay mine off before we bought our house and cash flow, my classes, when I take them).  The Budgeted section here will show the minimum payment amount only.  Once we make the payment (which hopefully is always more than the minimum), we update the Actual section.

The Debt Snowball Tracker is for me one of my favorite parts on this spreadsheet.  But it can also be the most shocking if you haven’t taken stock of your financial situation before.  This is another section where I have added sample numbers for you to see.  The Debt Snowball is where we track the overall totals of our debt.  I include the Due Date since those are typically fixed.  Then I add in the Original amount for the debt.  Each month, I update the Balance.  And the formula calculates the Percent Paid.  I document the Interest Rate to keep an eye on those.  And I update the Per Statement Date to show where I got the balance from.  Plugging in all of those numbers will then have the formula calculate the Total Current Debt and the Debt Starting Point.  Then I have a section for the Total Debt Paid Off, which gives me the dollar amount that we have already paid off and the percentage.

The Bill Tracker is the biggest section on the right side of the spreadsheet, but I am going to break it up.  This section here is where I track the payment information for the debt that we have.  I document the exact Due Date, the exact Amount, the Method of payment (mail check, scheduled, autopay), which Paycheck it will come out of,  and if it’s Confirmed Paid/Payment Cleared.  Then I also have a Notes section here.  While the Debt Snowball Tracker shows the total amount of debt we have, the Debt section of our Budget shows the minimum payment due, and what we plan to pay, the Debt section of our Bill Tracker focuses on the monthly payments that we actually make.

Next Time

Next week, I will go into details about our other bills, subscriptions, blow money, and savings categories for some of those areas.  Let me know below if you have a budget spreadsheet or what you think of ours!

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YouTube Review: One Big Happy Life (& Convos About Money)

YouTube Channel Name: One Big Happy Life

Creator(s): Tasha & Joseph

Genre: Lifestyle and Wealth Building

Website: https://onebighappylife.com

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One Big Happy Life started as a lifestyle channel but has naturally turned into an amazing financial channel with so much information on wealth building.  It could be the budget geek in me, but watching the videos immediately makes me want to jump into my budget and finances.  One way this channel differs from others that I have seen is that they actually show their real numbers.  You see how much they make, how much their expenses are, and their net worth.  Tasha has an amazing story where she started as an 18-year-old single mom in the military, making less than $20,000 to now having multiple six-figure incomes in their household.  They were able to do all of this while saving money, paying off debt, taking trips, and starting a business.  If you know me, you know that on and off again, we have followed Dave Ramsey since we have been married (I even co-led the Financial Peace University groups at my previous church home).  And while I think the program is great, it doesn’t work for everyone or even every season.  People tend to lose motivation when they have been paying off debt for so long and have to sacrifice vacations and retirement savings.

Another thing that I like about Tasha and Joseph is, they are doing what works for their family by not being married.  They have specific financial goals, and they break down how much money they would be leaving on the table if they got married.  It honestly makes so much sense.  I know that isn’t the traditional thing to do, but it’s working for them, and it’s their life.  It’s something that should be discussed before you take that jump while in a committed relationship.  They present a range of topics that are important to be apart of your talks about finances including IVF, Business (growing, maintaining, budget), Combining Finances, Holidays, Food (meal planning, shopping, diets), College/Student Loans, Large Purchases (houses, cars), Job Hunting, Home (DIY, repairs, closets), etc.

I’ve been subscribed to this channel for a while, and as they release video’s, I tend to watch them.  But I decided to spend a weekend catching up on videos, and that meant going back to the beginning and just watching the videos that caught my attention.  It’s incredible to see what they have accomplished over three years.  What started as Tasha’s channel to help funnel some of her creative energy while dealing with a job that she didn’t like turned into this brand and multi six-figure business.  They have programs to show you how to launch your own business, build wealth, and creating a life that makes you happy.

My History With Money

With my focus on building healthy goals and habits this year, finances are going to be a significant part of that and is why it is my focus for January.  Some background info on me and finances:  My entire career revolved around finances and financial institutions.  From my first nonpaid job of being a bookkeeper for a family members business in high school, my first paying job in the government to me switching to working in the banking industry for my last ten years of traditional employment.  Most of the time that I was in school was going towards some type of degree in business, finance, or financial planning.  Then my job turned into more of a project management role, and I fell in love and thought that finance was no longer my calling.

If you have read my 2019 Word of the Year blog post, you will see that when I left home for my sabbatical, I handed over our budget and our bills to my husband.  As a control freak that could track down to the penny of our budget, this was major for me but also showed how burnt out I was with everything in life.  Even for a while after I returned home, I didn’t pick up that responsibility again.  How did I feel about that? I’ve learned how to let go of having to be so tightly wound up and stressed out with our money.  But I also missed it.  I missed setting financial goals, seeing our debt go down, and our savings go up.  And after a conversation with the hubby one week, we realized that this is something that we need to do together specifically as we start talking about generational wealth, our family legacy, and our future goals.  What bought this conversation about?  We have had some significant issues with some appliances at our house that were unexpected (we built four years ago). It caused us to pause and realize that our situation looks a little different from last year, and we need to adjust for that.

Read more about our finances in this Year of Healthy post.

My Takeaways

Those issues, along with watching the One Big Happy Life channel, made me pull out our original budget spreadsheet and do some updating.  Our budget spreadsheet started as an idea from a budgeting group on Facebook I was in years ago.  (I wish I remembered the original group or person who shared the budget template because it has been so helpful!)  I used that idea and then created our own spreadsheet with sections that made sense for us. We’ve always budgeted monthly, but one thing I wanted to start doing based on the channel was to create a yearly budget for us as well. With it being the beginning of a new decade, I knew this was a perfect time to develop and start working on our 2020 budget.  Not only did I create the space for each monthly budget, but I went ahead and completed each month with what we knew was coming.  Then I created our yearly budget.  I tell you, something is humbling about seeing how much you are paying one entity for the whole 12 months.  It’s one thing to see your cell phone at $200 a month, but another thing to know that you are paying $2,400 for that little thing in your pocket.

I spent about two weeks tweaking our personal spreadsheet, updating what worked, and didn’t work for us.  Adding trackers to help keep track of our spending, our payments, and our balances.  I sat down with my husband to show him the changes, and we have frequently been having conversations to make sure we are doing this together and on the same page.  Each month, as we smooth out our process, I can make changes to improve it for our situation.  For example, I realized we had a lot of subscriptions, so one month, I created a subscription section on our budget.  The most important thing this did was help me breathe more comfortably when it comes to some of the issues we have had at the house lately.  My process improvement background thankful allows me to think of how can I fix this usually, and how do I prevent this from happening again.  This means not taking for granted that we had a brand new house and adding a line item to our budget to cover home repairs yearly. Keep an eye out for future posts where I share our update spreadsheet with you!

 

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Year of Healthy: January

This last quarter of 2019 was a doozy for our household. We’ve had two major appliances breakdown (one decided to go out twice) and our septic system is on the outs.  You are probably wondering, “Why is this an issue when things break?”  Well, we built our house four years ago and no way were we expecting things to start to go downhill in a major way. Let alone, all at the same time.  This has had my husband and I sitting down and figuring out what the heck we were going to do.  Because let’s be serious, no matter what others think, we aren’t rolling in dough.  My husband is active duty military and I’m a recent housewife who is trying to figure out this entrepreneural world.  With 2020 and a new decade here, it’s the best time to work on our budgets.

Been through some bad shit, I should be a sad bitch

Who woulda thought it’d turn me to a savage?

Background Info

I’ve always had a love for numbers.  I’m pretty sure it’s a love that was passed down from my grandmother to my father and then to me.  When I was 14, a family member started a business and I took on the role of bookkeeper.  I also started to help manage my family’s household budget.  I was able to get an understanding of what it took to run a home.  I learned about mortgages, credit cards, and groceries.  It may be different now but in the early 2000’s they were not teaching these things in high school.  I did discover accounting while in high school and enjoyed it so much I made it to a leadership conference for the state.  I honestly couldn’t tell you why I didn’t pursue that path.  But I did start working with finances and eventually financial institutions a week after high school.  Most of the time I was pursuing a college degree, it was connected to Finance, Financial Planning, Business or Human Services.  (I may talk about that path one day but I am honestly still trying to figure it out myself).  But when my job shifted to project management, I put finance on the backburner when it came to my dreams.

I want it, I got it, I want it, I got it
I want it, I got it, I want it, I got it

Personally, when we got married, we made the decision that I would handle the finances.  Combining our money was easy enough and paying the bills was the same.  We didn’t have any major issues.  When we planned on building our house, we knew we wanted to pay off all of our debt.  It would make it easier to get a loan and a good interest rate.  So that was our goal.  We paid off all my student loans, two car notes, and a couple of credit cards we had.  All in all, the total was over $50,000.  We then saved a bit to have a down payment (even though one wasn’t needed) and pay points (and I still don’t know if this was the best idea).  Then when we decided that I would quit my job and start a business three years later, we did the same thing.  We paid off all credit card debt we had. And while I know that debt (especially credit card debt) isn’t that great, it didn’t stop us from accumulating it each time.  We were impatient with things we wanted and used credit cards as a cushion.  Over and over again.

I don’t mean to brag, but I be like, “Put it in the bag,” yeah

When you see them racks, they stacked up like my ass, yeah

Fast forward to my Sabbatical in 2019, I was burnt out on all things including managing our household.  When I left to travel, I turned over everything to my husband.  I was being emotionally irresponsible but I was at a breaking point.  But the lesson I learned through that time was how not to spend money on things I didn’t need.  And even my idea of what I needed, changed.  It took months but I feel like I no longer cared about material things.  When I came back home, I didn’t take over the finances.  I was still very overwhelmed with life and trying to figure out my next steps.  I needed to know what my new normal would look like after being gone for five months.  That brings me to the present.  We decided instead of one of us having a hands-off approach to our finances we really need to do it together.  And this is where our goals and new routines come in.

Whoever said money can’t solve your problems

Must not have had enough money to solve ’em

They say, “Which one?” I say, “Nah, I want all of ’em”

Creating a Budget

I have a spreadsheet that I created from a Facebook post that inspired me back in 2016.  I decided to bring that back and update it.  I added new categories based on our current bills and expenses.  And thanks to a YouTube channel (review coming soon), I also added a yearly budget in addition to the monthly budget I normally do.  Having this spreadsheet alleviates me having to remember things from month to month.  Most of the due dates and amounts of our bills don’t change.  The hardest part each month for us was remembering all of those details including bills that didn’t happen monthly but we still needed to plan for.  Not to mention some type of savings to handle incidentals, goals, and wants.  Having a budget allows us to plan for our future and then follow that plan.

Buy myself all of my favorite things 

Initial Conversation About Goals

While I created our spreadsheet, I needed to make sure Chris was apart of creating it.  Which was helpful because I forgot things, he remembered.  I remembered things, that he forgot.  We also talked about what our goals were and realized they were just a tad bit different (after almost ten years together, that happens).  He wanted to immediately pay off debt and I wanted to build a savings cushion first.  I wanted to start planning out ways to generate income without us having to go to a job every day.  He didn’t want to have to wait to buy the things he wanted.  We need to get on the same page and create our short and long term goals.  We need to break them down into monthly, yearly and lifetime goals. Then decide what actions we need to take to make those happen.

Yeah, my receipts, be lookin’ like phone numbers

Regular Conversations About the Budget

I’ve always heard that finances are one of the biggest problems when it comes to marriage.  We didn’t have that problem because we didn’t talk about it.  When we both were working this was easy because we didn’t really have to say no to anything.  If we didn’t have the cash, we put it on a card and worried about paying it off later.  When we moved to one income and had to hear no more often, it really didn’t bother us too much.  But when things started to happen with appliances in the house, we didn’t have a way to say no without it really impacting our lives.  I like washing clothes daily.  I cooked way too much not to have a working refrigerator and I liked flushing the toilet after use.  All first world problems that I have become used to.  With broken appliances, comes repair or possible replacement cost.  And with costs moving into the thousands, we need to figure out how to come up with this money and quick. Which means we need to start talking about money.  What expenses did we have that we can get rid of?  What ways can we make more money without compromising our time and other goals we set for ourselves?

You like my hair? Gee, thanks, just bought it

I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it 

Turning Plans Into Actions

After we create our budget and then talk about it on the regular, we need to actually make sure we are hitting our goals.  There are two ways to eliminate debt and save money.  One way is to decrease spending and the other is to increase income.  There are many financial gurus out there who advocate for one way or the other.  I plan on doing a bunch of research to find what are some of the best ways for us to do one or the other or both.  We also will start to include our finances in our prayers.  I know for me, I sometimes don’t want to bother God with those types of things.  Outside of praying to hit the lottery, I don’t talk to God about helping me come up with the money for an unexpected expense.  And that has to change.  I’ve seen God do some amazing things and my faith in Him needs to extend into all areas of my life including our finances.

I’d rather spoil all my friends with my riches

Think retail therapy my new addiction

Let’s Do This

Like previous months, keep an eye out on my stories on Instagram and Facebook to see how we plan on doing all of this.  I’ll share books, podcasts, and YouTube channels that I am diving into.  I’ll even share my spreadsheet.  Two major holidays just passed in December for us.  My birthday and Christmas.  Christmas is a major spending holiday and for the past two years, we have been able to avoid making purchases the focus.  Truthfully, my greatest gift would be for us to find financial freedom.  So I can do without all of the crazy spending that we normally do.  It’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make.  Plus, we can always plan for next year.

Enjoyed the quotes throughout this post?  Check out 7 Rings by Ariana Grande. Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!

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